Our personal style in our 40’s is usually completely different than it was in our 20’s. As it should be. We aren’t the same women we were then.
Your style should reflect your current life, attitude, and personality.
Your style also tells people how to treat you. (It shouldn’t, but it does.)
Finding your style after 40 doesn’t have to be complicated. It doesn’t have to be expensive either.
But, finding your perfect style is easier for some women and harder for others.
A few years ago I realized my style had changed. I wasn’t sure what it had changed into but I knew it was changing and my closet needed to catch up.
In my 20’s I was single, not a mother and much thinner. (I remember the “thinner days” fondly.)
Now, as I get a closer to my 50’s, I want to dress my age (read How To Dress Your Age But Not Like Your Mother). But, I also want to look pulled together, stylish, and still express my personality.
Here are some of the ways I found my perfect style after 40 –
- I looked at the women around me who are very stylish (work, church, friends, etc.). I asked myself some questions. What do I love about her style? Is it the color? Does she wear items I usually don’t wear? Does she take fashion risks? Can I wear some of what she wears?
- Also, when I looked at the women around me, I needed to keep their body type and mine in mind. What works for them or fits them, may not be the same on me.
- Current magazines and some of the morning news shows (Like Good Morning America) help me see what’s current.
- Once I figured out what was current and what I liked, I needed to figure out how to make it my own.
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Let’s explore some possibilities.
Dresses – Do you love dresses? I love wearing dresses but (I’m going to show my age here), a lot of the dresses I see lately are either too short or not lined (see-through). I’m not comfortable with either. In order to make the fun boutiques dresses (in-store and on-line) work for me, I need to either get a slip or some great “boy short” type underwear like these, so that I’m not showing everyone “everything”. Another option is to wear the dresses with leggings. Longer leggings with boots is an option in colder months and cropped leggings with sandals can work in the warmer months.
Suits – if you wear suits for work and feel comfortable with this look, it’s pretty easy to dress them down when you’re not working. The pants can be worn with a fun shoe and nice blouse or sweater. The jackets go easily with jeans or a skirt. When I had to dress more professionally and was in front of a crowd often, I bought separates instead of the traditional 2 piece suits. Separates offer more versatility. You’re able to get colorful jackets which will pair with jeans after hours. Funky jewelry can soften the look if you want to wear the pieces to church or out to dinner.
Jeans are my uniform. I’m in them more often than not. For a long time, I thought I couldn’t or shouldn’t wear jeans to most places or for most occasions. Then I realized I can wear them to church and out to dinner with a great pair of shoes, jewelry, and a terrific jacket. The secret is to have nicer jeans with no holes and darker denim (darker denim is dressier and very slimming). (Not the same jeans you wear while cleaning the car.) I have jeans in every style and every length.
If Traditional dressing is more your style, you may feel more comfortable in solid colored tops. You can still have a polished style my adding awesome jewelry, fun shoes (especially if you want to take the attention away from your face), and again in one of those colorful jackets. Personally, I stay away from prints close to my face. With solid colors, I feel like I have more flexibility to mix and match.
Current Trends sometimes scare us. They aren’t for everyone. It’s all about your comfort level. Some things need to be left to the 20-year-olds. Right now “off the shoulder” tops are very popular. Ugh. Then I have to get a strapless bra. Will it stay up? If it’s see-through I can’t wear a tank underneath. It’s a whole thing for me. I’d rather avoid it and find another trend I can pull off more easily. Cold-shoulder tops are easier to wear and don’t show my arms. I’ll do that one instead 🙂
I have NO imagination. None!! Check out my Style For Women Over 40 Pinterest Board if you need some inspiration.
If color intimidates you, find 3 or 4 colors you love and build your wardrobe around them. It will make getting dressed so much easier.
Shopping online can help you see what’s current. You don’t have to buy online, but looking at websites like Ann Taylor, Loft, Old Navy, and Target help you see outfits already put together. Now you have ideas and can go to the physical store to see, touch, and try on. (Definitely get on their email lists, so you can get the best deals when they are available.)
A Few Of My Favorite Sites:
For great shoes, that are trendy but not over the top, I LOVE this site.
One way I “flirt” with my comfort zone is with a monthly subscription to Stitch Fix. I’ve been using Stitch Fix for a few years now. If you’re not familiar, it’s a monthly clothing subscription service. I’ve gotten some things I would never have bought on my own.
Not every month is a home run, but I have a great stylist who works really hard to find items that I want and will wear. Here’s a link to my Stitch Fix Pinterest Board so you can see some of the items I’ve received lately. This will give you an idea of what they have to offer.
Finding your style after 40 doesn’t have to be difficult. Be patient. Ask a few trusted friends. Take a little risk and you might find your best self and your best style after 40.
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