Repeat after me, I am a great mom!!
There are days when I certainly don’t feel like a great mom. There are entire weeks when I don’t feel like a great mom.
Have you had those days? Those are the days when you’re sure someone is going to tap you on the shoulder and say “ok, you’re done, I’ll take over from here.”
I recently had a conversation with 2 other moms and all three of us agreed that we feel like we are really “messing up this motherhood thing.” The funny thing was that we were all coming at it from different angles. We all had different problems and different concerns.
None of our kids were being horrible kids and we weren’t being tyrants. There were no crimes being committed and the kids were all bathed, clothed and fed.
In other words, we were doubting ourselves and our abilities to handle whatever we perceived to be the Problem Of The Day.
Don’t get me wrong, there are some days when these kids drive us absolutely bananas. Like, crazy out of our heads bonkers!!
But, what we are really talking about here is personal. How WE view our abilities as mothers.
Most of the time we only think we are great moms when the kids say “I love you Mom”.
But, there are a lot of other factors to consider.
Here are just a few things to think about before removing your application for Mom Of The Year:
Are your kids bathed, clothed, and fed today? (Yes, once in a while, swimming counts as a bath!)
Have you ever made your kids write thank you notes after receiving presents?
Have you ever made your kids apologize, face to face, to someone for something they did wrong?
Have you ever taken away electronics, tv, or toys for a few days for misbehaving?
Have you ever made your kids answer the door and tell their friends why they cannot come out and play today (because of their behavior)?
Have your kids ever had to pay for something they broke?
Has anyone ever said to you, “You should be proud, Billy was so good at our house”?
Has a teacher ever said to you “I love having Susie in my class”?
Have your kids ever told you “YOU ARE SO MEAN” because you said NO about something they really wanted to do (because of their behavior)?
If you said yes to 2 or more things on this list, you are probably a great mom and need to give yourself a break.
Not every day will be perfect.
There are a lot of great days in the parenting journey. There are a lot of bad days in the parenting journey.
Remember this, God gave those kids to YOU. Not anyone else. He didn’t want anyone else to raise those kids but YOU!!! You can do this. You ARE doing this. If today wasn’t a good day. Tomorrow is a “do over”.
I recently heard someone say, ” only good mothers think they are bad moms”.
How many great moms say “I am an awesome mom”? Most of us say it jokingly, but deep down think that on a scale of 1-10 we are somewhere south of 8.
Social media doesn’t help. I love social media, but it’s hard not to second-guess yourself with all the pictures of perfect homes, perfect bodies, and perfect family photos. It’s easy to think that we would have all the right answers if we could just find the right article from Pinterest.
Trust me. I have pinned a lot of articles (I’ve even written a few), talked to a lot of people and read a lot of books. You know what I have learned? What works for one mom doesn’t work for every mom.
Motherhood is not one size fits all. We need to give ourselves a break and give each other a break too.
We also need to be there for each other. I get a lot of good advice from friends. Some of it works and some of it doesn’t. Not because it wasn’t good advice, but probably because it wasn’t good advice for me and my family.
The bigger point here is that if you are confiding in other moms, reading books, and searching for motherhood articles on-line, you are a great mom!
WHY? Because you are constantly trying to get better at the hardest and most important job you will ever have!!!
If you are doubting yourself. If you answered “yes” to two or more questions above. If you are constantly trying to do better. YOU ARE A GREAT MOM!!! Believe it!!
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