The seasons of life are inevitable.
Children grow up, graduate, and move out. New job opportunities, promotions, and second careers. Friends moving away and building new relationships. Milestone birthdays. All of these things are seasons and all can turn your world upside down if you let them.
Life happens. When it does it can throw you for a loop. Things seem to be humming right along and BAM, seemingly out of nowhere, BIG CHANGES.
Your attitude and outlook have a lot to do with how you move past all the change. Will you embrace change or go running in the other direction?
I don’t know if it’s true what they say “everything happens for a reason”. But, people seem compelled to say it when big changes occur. Especially, when it’s happening to you and NOT to them.
I’m not sure if I believe it as much as I believe that God uses everything for HIS good. So, I need to wait and put my Patience Pants on.
In my 40-some years, I have experienced a lot of life changes. Many seasons of life!!
One big change happened about 5 years ago. I decided to quit working full-time. I was in my 40’s. Most of my brain was saying I was crazy. My husband supported my decision. We both wanted to do the right thing for our family.
I had always worked. I was in direct sales for almost 20 years and the Air Force before that. Working was all I knew. Now what?
My other thought was that if I stop working, am I a quitter? I built a very successful business and I’m just walking away.
Then I realized a few things. I was very successful. I earned many accolades and a great many awards and trips with my company. I made some lasting friendships. But, my business served its purpose. It was my income for a long time and I helped other people earn an income as well. But, now I was needed somewhere else. I had a young daughter who needed me at home.
It was time to move on to the next phase of my life.
Do you believe in signs? I do. When I was thinking of moving on from my career, there were signs. Not the kind of signs where you get blinded by the excitement of new opportunities. They were signs that involved doors closing.
Nothing seemed to be working. I was putting in the effort (hours and hours of effort) and nothing was happening. Doors closing.
Finally, after attending a wonderful conference with my company, my attitude didn’t change. I usually left those meetings excited and invigorated. Not this time. I still didn’t see myself continuing or feel compelled to “give it another year”. When I got home, I knew it was time to make the change.
Not long after that, we changed churches. How do you do that without feeling guilty? It’s church!!! Again, we wondered if we were being quitters. Our church wasn’t filled with bad people, it was simply was not meeting our needs. We made friends at our old church and great memories, but it was time.
Another tough decision. All the signs were there that it was time for our family to move on. When we walked into our new church, we instantly knew it was the one!
Again, we tried not to be blinded by the excitement and enthusiasm that often accompany change.
In the days and weeks after we visited, what would be our new church, no one called from our old church to ask why we hadn’t been there or to say that we had been missed. We knew doors were closing.
Seasons of life can be good. Seasons of life can also be frustrating.
When changes come it’s important to focus on the good that can result. What can ultimately come out of this? The “temporary” and “sudden” can get us out of our comfort zone. When we are uncomfortable, often we aren’t able to look beyond right now.
When new seasons come, here are a few questions to ask yourself:
- Did the old season benefit me?
- Did I grow as a person?
- Is there an opportunity for me to grow now?
- Can I see myself benefitting from this new event?
In order to love the seasons of life, it’s important to look beyond right now and imagine what “can” happen. Recognize the closing doors and set your sights on coming out of this season better than before. Even if that means being temporarily uncomfortable.
If you enjoyed this article, I’d love for you to check out this one about putting the past behind you.